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You may have asked yourself the question “How Do You Get A Girl” to like you? I write this blog to teach men about the attraction and seduction process and help them to improve their game. The material that I discuss teaches social dynamics that make men persuasive in their social interactions with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with the importance of physical comfort in the attraction and seduction process.
In order for a woman to arrive at the decision to hook up with you, the situation must feel right in her mind with no awkwardness or weird tension. Women are very intuitive and pay close attention to their feelings and emotions.
In order to create an environment that promotes positive energy. It is important to focus on your targets physical condition. She needs to feel 100% comfortable in order to progress into a physical relationship. She needs to feel comfortable with your touch before you kiss her. She needs to be comfortable with your kiss before you can progress further sexually. There is a natural progression that takes place that allows your relationship to progress. Each step should feel 100% natural.
If you create an environment that is warm and inviting with positive energy you will improve your chances of making her “feel right” about the situation.
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This is a great insight because a lot of guys feel uncomfortable escalating physically. Their awkward feeling in turn makes the woman feel uncomfortable.
I’ve heard Neil Strauss say that the two scariest moments for a guy (in pickup) is (a) approaching a woman for the first time and (b) going for the first kiss. He’s probably right. Those are the two times where we guys really put ourselves out there and can get rejected.
I wonder if you have any specific recommendations for how a guy can make a woman comfortable enough with his touch so the first kiss isn’t awkward?
For example, could you say that if a guy establishes kino within the first few seconds of meeting a girl, it might make the first kiss less awkward down the line?
Thanks for the great insight. I love concise and right on the money your posts are.
For me the easiest way to establish kino within the first few seconds. Is to ask my target if I can introduce her to my friends. Most of the time woman are okay with that and they accept the invitation. At the moment they accept my invitation, I take them by the hand and walk them over to my group of friends. The simple act of holding their hand primes them for additional kino. I offer my friends an introduction. If this goes well. I do the same thing over again…This time I offer to buy a drink…If she says yes. I take her by the hand and walk her over to the bar. Kino is a process…I’m not a jedi…But this is what works for me. Thanks for the kind words. I love your blog. It’s inspiring. I was taking a look at it this morning. Thanks commenting on my blog.
My pleasure!
By the way, genius move. You’re so right on. Hands and arms are the most public parts of our bodies. I mean, it’s totally cool to shake hands, right? So, taking someone by the hand is totally cool.
Could you even say a quick tap on the arm when you say something like “get this” is natural too? Brushing a hair out of girl’s face when you’ve just met her… that might be a little more intimate. Haha But I love to do that right before I kiss her. Very sensual.
You’re right it’s a process. Like, after the hands and arms, I wonder if legs might be the second most “public” place to touch someone. And then finally the facial area, including ears, neck, hair is probably the most intimate before you get to sex.
Thanks for the props, man. Great insights.
I really like the idea of brushing the hair out of her eyes before the kiss. I will have to try that.
For me leg touches are kind of difficult at times. I find them easiest when I’m sitting down on a couch beside my target. In martini bars when you are often seat beside your target leg touches are key. I will act really surprised and say “Oh my god did you see the pics of Lindsay Lohan that are on TMZ today?” (Or some other stupid shit) While I say it I do a light / brief leg touch. It works for me.
Thanks again man!
Absolutely! I would never recommend touching a woman’s legs on the approach. Like you said, it’s best done when you’re sitting next to her, during the “comfort” one-on-one phase.
And, by the way, if you’re sitting across from her impossible to do! Haha I like how you said you’ll tap her leg when you’re sitting down BESIDE her. I also liked how you said you’d touch her on the leg when you say something like “oh my God…” It’s just how we all touch each other. Nothing to it. Natural.
Something else that’s almost seductive is brushing your leg against hers while talking about something totally unrelated. Just a brush, like it was an accident, yet like a tease. Love it. Cause now you’re communicating without words.
I seriously love your passion for this. Thanks for sharing your wisdom
I appreciate it greatly.