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Approach, Asking Questions, Attraction, Behavioral Science, Getting Girls, How To Get The Girl, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, Seduction, Silence, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science
I write this blog with the intention of helping men to improve their game and learn How To Get The Girl of their dreams. I teach social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. I try to teach men to be more persuasive with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with asking questions during your approach.
When approaching women and engaging in conversation you need to use two key tools:
Tools:
1.) Use questions instead of statements
2.) Silence
The first tool is asking questions. Questions generate answers and statements generate resistance. Question will allow your target to express themselves and you can provide them with recognition for their unique insight or wisdom.
“Questions do not criticize, they educate.” -Roger Fisher
If you ask your target an honest question and you get an insufficient answer. Use the second tool. Silence…
Silence is a great tool to use if a target is acting unreasonably or attacking you in an unjustified way. Often the best thing that you can do is sit there and not say a word. Simply sit silently and provide uncomfortable silence. She will know that she has cross a line that shouldn’t be crossed.
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This is such a great piece of advice… especially about silence. It’s almost counter-intuitive. You’re not going to lose the girl by being silent at appropriate times. In fact, it can actually attract a girl. Marni of “Winggirl” once shared this proverb that I love: “women reveal, men conceal.” Silence lets the girl come to you. Thanks for this absolutely fantastic reminder.
By the way, you advise against statements? I love your quote about how questions educate. Couldn’t agree with you more. That’s why I love Socrates. But in my experience I’ve found people sometimes can’t handle questions. It’s like they get defensive.
Do you think there are some situations where statements are okay? For example, when first meeting a girl instead of asking, “where you from?” maybe state “I just figured out where you’re from. The Congo!” She’ll laugh and will probably tell you anyway.
But of course when you qualify a girl it’s absolutely necessary to ask a question. It wouldn’t make sense to make a statement here. I don’t know the answer, but I wonder what your thoughts are. It’s such an important issue to bring up, because “asking questions” is such a critical part of conversation.
You’re right about statements. I should have been much more specific when I was describing the use of statements. I came across as if I was totally anti “Statement” 🙂 Anyway. You’re right statements can be a very good way of striking up conversation. Even a fundamental piece of carrying on a conversation. I was just trying to communicate that it is very easy to create a one-side or one dimensional (boring) conversation if you use excessive statements. Thanks for pointing that out. Sometimes I decide to title a blog post something and I go crazy focusing on only one topic.