Disqualify

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During our training seminars men frequently ask the question “How Do You Get Girls?” I write this blog to help men improve their game and learn social dynamics that effect the attraction and seduction process. The goal is to help men become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to discuss with you today is called disqualification.

Disqualify – verb: any statement that shows a woman that you are not hitting on her, when in fact you are attracted to her.

The concept seems counter-intuitive but it is a very important building block in the attraction process.

Disqualifying is the corner stone of flirting. You show the woman that you are attracted to that you are not interested in her.

It seems counter-intuitive, but it works.

It has something to do with “loss aversion.” We naturally want what we can’t have. When we feel the loss of someone we naturally have a heightened desire for that person. We have a tendency to be more sensitive to potential losses than to potential gains. You want the conversation to shift from her thinking “this guy is hitting on me” to “This guy is non-threatening.”

Our goal when approaching women is to enter into a natural conversation and create a sense of comfort without telegraphing interest. The way we avoid telegraphing interest is through the process disqualifying. In order to build attraction you must first show her that you are not interested in her. If you approach a woman using a more aggressive strategy you appear desperate and women sense the desperation and find it unattractive.

Truly beautiful women have hundreds of men competing for their attention. When you properly disqualify your target you present a unique challenge that women find intriguing. They think “I can’t have this guy. How can I get him?” and they want what they can’t have.

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How Do You Get Girls

Kino Escalation

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Men come to us to learn “How To Get The Girl” of their dreams. The purpose of this blog is to help men understand the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today is referred to as “kino escalation.”

Kino escalation is a complex process of building attraction through touching (kinesthetics) and closing a woman. When properly used Kino can be the difference between a kiss close and the “friend zone.”

For women the decision to become physical with a man is very intuitive and depends on whether it “feels right” or not. If she is going to hook-up with you it must “feel” natural.

You must avoid creating tension that disrupts positive energy. Awkwardness will cause her to “feel” like she is making a bad decision moving forward with you.

Women are able to sense awkwardness from a mile away. If you sense any weird tension moving in for a kiss, chances are she is feeling the same weird tension also.

Kino Escalation is all about making a woman feel comfortable with your touch gradually over time. If done properly she will be primed and ready for the kiss and you will avoid awkward tension all together.

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How To Get The Girl

Messaging Etiquette

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Each day I post a blog with helpful hints for men looking to improve their game. I teach social dynamics that help during the attraction and seduction process. The lessons are full of working knowledge that will help you learn “How To Get A Girl.” The topic that I would like to discuss today is “Messaging Etiquette” and how to message a potential date.

When you get a woman’s number it is sometimes hard to tell when and how to contact her. We find ourselves asking questions like: How long do I wait to call her? Should I shoot her a text message? Should I leave a voicemail message? There are unwritten rules that you need to follow and certain etiquette that should be used when messaging.

How long do I wait to call? – There is no set time frame. I suggest waiting at least three days so that you don’t appear desperate. But, if you notice a lot of competition you should call sooner rather than later.

Should I send her a text message? – For a first-time communication I strongly discourage text messages as a form of communication. A telephone call goes a long way and is much more personal.

Should I leave a voicemail message? – Yes, but keep it short and simple.

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How To Get A Girl

Individualism

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A popular question that we hear in our training classes is “How Do You Get A Girl?” The reason that I write this blog is to teach men social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. The goal is to help men improve their game and become more successful with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with individualistic and collectivistic personality types. Individualism is an orientation that assigns a high importance to the preferences of the individual. Collectivism places a high level of importance on the group. Generally, western culture is considered an individualistic culture. (We’re Selfish)

Women usually place the highest priority on personal preferences. By understanding this psychology you can create a message that resonates on a deeper level. What do I mean? Although it’s an oversimplification, one might say that if someone has individualistic personality preferences they would respond best to an individualistic-oriented approach strategy.

What is an individualistic approach? An approach that’s message focuses solely on the benefits that the target will receive from associating with you. Or focusing on topics that effect the individual directly. (Her Friends, School, Family, Ex-Boyfriend, etc.)

When creating conversation with a woman focus on topics that directly effect them on a personal level.

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How Do You Get A Girl

Personalize Communication

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When students ask the question “How Can I Get Girls?” I always try to teach a lesson about social dynamics and provide some advice that will help during the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with the appropriate use of technology in your communication with women.

In recent years we have been bombarded with technological advancements that have effected the way we communicate with women. With social media, email, text messaging and Skype we find ourselves using technology in many different ways to find dates. For better or worse, long are the days when these negotiations only took place in person and over the phone.

Technology is great and it has changed our lives for for the best, but face-to-face communication is what strengthens relationships and builds trust. Email and Text messaging is great. But, I am simply arguing that “Personalized Communication” like telephone conversation and good old fashion face-to-face communication is more effective for creating rapport.

I’m not saying that social media, email and text messaging are not effective tools for attracting and seducing women. I am simply stating that in order to maximize success with women you will need to master “Personalized Communication” techniques. One of the key attraction switches for women is when a man demonstrates that he is socially competent. This is accomplished through face-to-face social interactions.

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How Can I Get Girls

How Can I Get Girls

Intoxication

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Students frequently ask the question “How Do You Get Girls?” I write this blog to help men improve their game and become more persuasive. My goal is to help my students learn about the attraction / seduction process and become more successful with women. The topic I would like to discuss today has to do with intoxication and detrimental impact of alcohol on decision-making.

Many studies have been conducted in an attempt to measure the deceptive influence that occurs when a person has a high level of alcohol in their blood stream. The studies show that we are more susceptible to deceptive influence and persuasion when we are drunk. When we are intoxicated we are more gullible and lack cognitive resources to make rational decisions.

What does this have to do with getting girls? In a normal cognitive state, beautiful women are less likely to participate in casual sex than men. There are high-stakes for women, they don’t want to risk pregnancy and the troubles that result from having a baby.

When we are intoxicated rational decision-making behavior is impaired and we are vulnerable to deceptive persuasion tactics.

Studies have revealed that it’s during these moments of intoxication that women are mostly likely to participate in casual sex.

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How Do You Get A Girl

Emotional Condition

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I write this blog to teach men “How To Get The Girl” of their dreams.  Each day I teach a lesson in social dynamics and persuasion to help men better understand the attraction and seduction process.   The concept that I would like to discuss today is has to do with our “Emotional Condition” and how our emotional experiences can have a detrimental impact on our decision making.

Emotions like happiness and sadness drastically influence the way that we view people.    It is important to be sensitive to the subtle ques that indicate the female emotional condition and recognize what state or mood they are in before making your approach.  Body language can tell you a lot about a woman’s emotional condition.

Women are on a roller coaster of different emotions.  Depending on the time of day or time of the month.  There will be fluctuation in their emotions that will influence their decision making and can cause them to respond unfriendly or aggressively.

If you notice signs of negative behavior simply excuse your self and leave immediately it is not worth your time and effort.  It is important to pay close attention to the emotional condition of your target.

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Branding

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The purpose of this blog is to teach men “How To Get A Girl.” Each day I try to provide a small piece of advice that will help men become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The material aims to help students during the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with “Simplicity” and the importance of your name in the approach.

Research has proven that people show greater affection for names that can be easily pronounce, rather than names that are difficult to pronounce.

Marketers are fully aware of this phenomenon when branding companies, products or people the easier the name is to read and pronounce the more likely it will be viewed positively.

How does this apply to getting girls? If your name is long or difficult to pronounce I’m not telling you to go out and legally change your name. I’m simply advising you to never underestimate the power of simplicity. This is the reason that you see many pick-up artists using a short alias during introductions. In order to build a positive first impression and avoid stumbling blocks in communication it is effective to use an alias to smooth communication and generate interest in your identity. Your name is part of your brand. It is important to keep it simple.

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How To Get A Girl

The Power of Because

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Men visit my blog to improve their game and answer the question “How Do You Get A Girl?” The purpose of this material is to help teach men about social dynamics that effect social interactions with women and provide helpful advice during the attraction and seduction process. The concept that I will cover today will strengthen your persuasion attempts and help you increase compliance with women.

Behavioral scientists have found that by incorporating the word “because” into your requests you can increase the compliance of your target. If you accompany your request with strong rationale, by stating the importance of the request and providing the reason behind your request you will see increased compliance. This may sound obvious, but we often assume that people understand the reasoning behind our requests.

How does this apply to getting girls? When seeking compliance rather than making demands “Come to our party Friday night,” or “Give me your number and I will call you sometime,” a more effective strategy is to provide reason and strong rationale.

“Come to our party this Friday night, because if you don’t you will be missing out.”

Or

“Can I get your number? Because, we’re having a party this weekend and I want to send you directions.”

In other words, if you use the word because when making requests you will maximize your success and increase compliance with women.

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How Do You Get A Girl

Loss Aversion

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Men are always asking themselves “How Can I Get Girls.” I write this blog to help men navigate through the attraction and seduction process. Each blog post touches on the social dynamics that we encounter during social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today is “Loss Aversion.” When we feel the loss of someone or something we naturally have a heightened desire for that person or product. We have a tendency to be more sensitive to possible losses than to possible gains. This phenomenon or tendency is called “loss aversion” the idea is that people are more motivated to avoid losses than to acquire gains. “Loss Aversion” explains a lot about our decision making behavior and what motivates us to action. Marketers understand this principle and leverage our emotions by emphasizing what we stand to lose from not buying a product.

What does “Loss Aversion” have to do with getting girls? If you can frame the situation to provoke feelings of loss in your target, they will naturally feel “loss aversion” and want to fight for what they can’t have. This is why you see pick-up artists teaching the importance of shoulder turns and back turns when compliance testing. When women receive the cold shoulder they sense feelings of loss. When women are compliant you reward them with attention. When they are not compliant you punish them with shoulder and back turns. If you’re not getting the attention you desire turn and walk away. She will sense the loss.

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How Can I Get Girls

How Can I Get Girls