Hedonic Adaptaiton

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This weekend I studied a very interesting concept that pertains to happiness. The psychological concept is called Hedonic Adaptation, also known as the Hedonic Treadmill. Hedonic Adaptation suggests that joy, love, triumph, sorrow and loss all fade with time. We naturally become accustom to positive or negative emotional stimulus. As we become accustomed to the positive / negative stimulus, our goals adjust to increase or maintain our well being. The pursuit of happiness resembles a person on a treadmill constantly moving forward with an insatiable hunger for happiness.

How does this apply to pick-up and venusian science? As pick-up artists we are constantly striving for the next beautiful woman. Hoping to satisfy our biological needs. In this pursuit of happiness it is very easy to become accustomed to the positive emotional stimulus that we experience and enter into destructive behavior that is a result of hedonic adaptation.

I see men who are on the hedonic treadmill constantly working to increase or maintain their success with women. Their are unintended consequences for men in the pick-up community with insatiable desires.

You must establish measurable goals. Once you reach your goals you must find a way to be physically and emotionally satisfied. You can’t just ask “How Can I Get Girls?”

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Personal Interests

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Have you ever found yourself frustrated asking the question How Can I Get Girls to like me? The purpose of this blog is to teach men about social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. The material will teach you to become more persuasive in your social interactions with women. The topic I will discuss today is personal interests.

Women usually place the highest priority on their own personal interests. We come from a very individualist society that assigns very high importance to the preferences of the individual. (We’re Selfish) The most powerful motivating personal interests are basic human needs. These are the main concerns that influence decision making and motivate all people. It is important to know each of these needs in order to understand female psychology.

Basic Human Needs:

1.) Security
2.) Sense of Belonging
3.) Economic Well-Being
4.) Recognition
5.) Sense of Control Over Life

By acknowledging these fundamental human needs and incorporating elements that influence these needs into your approach and routines, you will maximize success with women. As a pick-up artist it is your job to serve these interests and make your target feel good about herself. You should try to make her interests come alive.

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Seeding Conversation

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You’re reading this blog because you want to answer the question “How Can I Get girls?” The reason that I write this blog is to provide advice for men trying to improve their game. The material will help you during the attraction and seduction process, by helping you become more persuasive in social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to teach today is called “Seeding Conversation” The idea is to be indirectly suggestive in conversation when seeking compliance.

When you want to invite a woman over to your place to watch a movie. You never outright say, “Come over to my house and watch a movie with me.” Instead it is better to seed the invititation in low doses and build excitement around the movie and then suddenly change the subject. Later in the evening revisit the movie topic in order to let the excitement build.

For example:

If you want to take a your date back to your place. Seed into the conversation “I heard the most amazing song today. I haven’t been able to get it out of my head.” Then later on in the date mention as an after thought. “Hey, you’ve got to listen to that amazing song I was telling you about real quick. It’s amazing, I think I’m in love. Then take her to your place and get her comfortable with the idea of visiting you living space. Quickly let her listen to the song that you like and leave. The idea is to get her comfortable in your environment in low-doses over time.

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Personalize Communication

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Attraction, Attraction Switches, Behavioral Science, Communication, Dating, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Influence, Personalized Communication, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

When students ask the question “How Can I Get Girls?” I always try to teach a lesson about social dynamics and provide some advice that will help during the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with the appropriate use of technology in your communication with women.

In recent years we have been bombarded with technological advancements that have effected the way we communicate with women. With social media, email, text messaging and Skype we find ourselves using technology in many different ways to find dates. For better or worse, long are the days when these negotiations only took place in person and over the phone.

Technology is great and it has changed our lives for for the best, but face-to-face communication is what strengthens relationships and builds trust. Email and Text messaging is great. But, I am simply arguing that “Personalized Communication” like telephone conversation and good old fashion face-to-face communication is more effective for creating rapport.

I’m not saying that social media, email and text messaging are not effective tools for attracting and seducing women. I am simply stating that in order to maximize success with women you will need to master “Personalized Communication” techniques. One of the key attraction switches for women is when a man demonstrates that he is socially competent. This is accomplished through face-to-face social interactions.

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Loss Aversion

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Attraction, Back Turns, Behavioral Science, Dating, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Influence, Loss, Loss Aversion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Shoulder Turns, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

Men are always asking themselves “How Can I Get Girls.” I write this blog to help men navigate through the attraction and seduction process. Each blog post touches on the social dynamics that we encounter during social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today is “Loss Aversion.” When we feel the loss of someone or something we naturally have a heightened desire for that person or product. We have a tendency to be more sensitive to possible losses than to possible gains. This phenomenon or tendency is called “loss aversion” the idea is that people are more motivated to avoid losses than to acquire gains. “Loss Aversion” explains a lot about our decision making behavior and what motivates us to action. Marketers understand this principle and leverage our emotions by emphasizing what we stand to lose from not buying a product.

What does “Loss Aversion” have to do with getting girls? If you can frame the situation to provoke feelings of loss in your target, they will naturally feel “loss aversion” and want to fight for what they can’t have. This is why you see pick-up artists teaching the importance of shoulder turns and back turns when compliance testing. When women receive the cold shoulder they sense feelings of loss. When women are compliant you reward them with attention. When they are not compliant you punish them with shoulder and back turns. If you’re not getting the attention you desire turn and walk away. She will sense the loss.

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Attraction Switches

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Men frequently ask us “How Can I Get Girls” so I each day I try to leave my students with a small pearl of wisdom that will help during the attraction and seduction process. Today I would like to go over female “Attraction Switches.”

The unconscious mind is constantly performing complex computations to make day-to-day decisions.  To speed up the decision making process our brain uses logical short-cuts to facilitate the operations to make better decisions quickly.  Our brain is programmed to seek evidence of social proof to make quality decisions.

Example of short-cut logic:

A beautiful woman walks in the room.  You recognize a giant diamond ring on the ring finger of her left hand.  You make the logical connection that this beautiful women is taken.  She is married.  You don’t have to ask her the question, your brain performed a logical short-cut to arrive at that conclusion.

Along with short-cut logic the female mind is programmed with a variety of  attraction switches that influence how you are perceived in the mind of a woman.  These switches allow women to make snap decisions / judgement to determine how attractive you are.

List of Attraction Switches in women:

“Alpha male”
“The ability to look after her and her children, financially and otherwise”
“Socially competant”
“Many friends”
“pre-approved by other females”
“intelligent”
“Confident”
“Funny”
“Leader of men”
“Has standards when comes to women”
“Many girlfriends”
“Discreet”

By understanding short-cut logic and attraction switches.  You can learn to flip those switches and maximize success with women.

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Touting Weaknesses

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When men ask the question “How Can I Get Girls?” I like to share examples of social science and behavioral science that can help you to be more persuasive with women during the attraction and seduction process. When approaching women we are striving to demonstrate high-value and promote our strengths. If you’re not careful you can come across as arrogant and conceded. One interesting persuasion technique used to build trust is “touting weaknesses.” This approach may seem self-defeating, but by mentioning a slight draw-back or small personal flaw. You create the perception that you are honest and trustworthy. When you build this perception in the mind of your target you position yourself to be more persuasive when promoting your genuine strengths.

It is important that you identify only minor flaws and joke about them. By volunteering negative information to your target, you show that you realize that you aren’t perfect and you can joke about it. Then when you promote one of your genuine strengths you don’t seem conceded. This technique can help improve you likeability and show that you have a sense of humor.

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Enchantment

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Enchantment

Men frequently ask the question “How Can I Get Girls?” In order to maximize success with women. You must learn to be persuasive and enchanting. How does one become enchanting? Best-selling author and serial entrepreneur Guy Kawasaki recently wrote a book titled Enchantment. The book explores highly successful entrepreneurs like Steve Jobs (Apple), Richard Branson (Virgin) and Tony Hsieh (Zappos) and explains how they were enchanting. He explains that enchantment is delighting people with your ideas, causes and passions. It is the tool to influence peoples hearts, minds and actions to bring about change.

Guy Kawasaki explains the 3 pillars of enchantment:

1.) Likability
2.) Trustworthiness
3.) Good Cause

I believe that the 3 pillars of enchantment apply directly to the attraction and seduction process. With a little practice we can become enchanting too.

Likability – Likability starts with a great smile. Not just with your mouth, but with your eyes also. A nice firm hand shake that doesn’t seem fake and the right wardrobe. Always dress appropriately in a way that communicate “I respect you. I dress like you.”

Trustworthiness – You must trust others before they will trust you. When you first meet someone new you must think “How can I help this person” not “How can they help me”

Good Cause – Your cause should be an extension of yourself. Guy Kawasaki explains that your cause can be a product, service, idea or organization. Once you are confident with yourself and your cause you will become enchanting.

Once you become enchanting you will become unstoppable.

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Like Fine Wine

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We teach men to answer the question “How Can I Get Girls?” Have you ever found your self choosing a bottle of wine from a wine list in a bar or restaurant? Many restaurants will present the more expensive bottles of wine at the bottom of the wine list, although the customers eyes may never make it down to the bottom of the list as they consider the many different options. In some cases restaurants will put the high-end champagnes on a completely different menu. By doing this, the mid range wines are not presented as compromise choices and therefore don’t appear less attractive.

Research has shown that if restaurants make a simple change to the wine list they can increase sales of pricey bottles. The trick is to list the most expensive bottles first, this causes customers to choose the next-most-pricey bottle as their compromise option.

How does choosing wine at a bar or restaurant relate to getting girls? Well, women of beauty are faced with many choices when they attend bars and nightclubs. When they are approached by 10 – 15 different men per/night they are essentially sitting in front of a wine list of options to choose from. Some men are fine wine and others are compromise choices. Each beautiful women in the bar or nightclub competes for the attention of the high-value men. Each man is competing for the attention of the high-value women.

The goal is to present ourselves as a high-value option to maximize our success. Or at least become a beautiful woman’s compromise option. Becoming someone’s compromise option may seem like a bad thing. But at least you get your foot-in-the-door and have the opportunity to demonstrate value. Such a shift a woman’s choice could land you in a compromising position of your own, that just depends on how you set your standards.

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Expected Utility Theory

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Attraction, Dating, Decision Making, Expected Utility Theory, Female Biology, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Influence, Pick-Up Artist, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Sex, Social Dynamics, Success with Women, The Game, Value Demonstration

There is a good chance you found this article because you are looking to improve your game and answer the question “How Can I Get Girls?”  One concept that is important for every pick-up artist to understand is the Expected Utility Theory.

The concept explains a rational person’s decision making behavior.  Or how people would behave if they followed certain requirements of rational decision making.

I know what you’re thinking…That all sounds great, but last time I checked women don’t follow rational decision making behavior.  Well, I will agree with you to a certain extent.  But, for the most part women demonstrate rational decision making when selecting a mate.  (Unless under the influence of alcohol.)

Put a women in a room full of men and she will try to select the man who demonstrates the highest value or the highest utility as her mate.  How a woman defines value or utility is subject to the individual preferences.  But, women in general place high value in security.  The need for security is rooted deep into female evolutionary biology.   Women are programmed to seek out a mate who will protect and provide for them.

In order to maximize success with women we must demonstrate high-value and fit the mold that rational thinking women require.  In other words, in order to maximize success with women it is vital to appear as if you have your shit together.

It is also important to realize that rational thinking, beautiful women are less likely to participate in casual sex.  Even the best pick-up artists have to work towards sex and earn the trust of a woman.

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