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Building A Relationship of Trust

04 Friday May 2012

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The goal of this blog is to teach men How To Get Girls. The material teaches social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process and help men to become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with building trust and rapport with your target.

What makes pick-up so difficult is that you are dealing with complete strangers. It is very easy for a beautiful woman to feel threatened by a complete stranger and react in negative manner to your approach strategy. Strangers are often seen as the “opposition” or the “other side” and are treated much differently than someone who they already know. It is much easier dealing with a classmate, co-worker, friend or even a friend of a friend.

A pick-up artist has the ability to avoid being a stranger, quickly building trust and rapport with his target.

The more quickly you can turn a stranger into someone that you know the better.

A relationship of trust is what causes a woman to write down her telephone number, hang-out with you and your friends, hold hands, kiss, enter your living space, and ultimately enter your bedroom.

Try hard to get to know your target. Ask questions and listen. Find out about their likes and dislikes. Share intimate and personal information / interesting facts about yourself that will allow your target to know more about you.

Happy Hunting

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Value Demonstration

26 Thursday Apr 2012

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I write this blog to teach men “How To Get A Girl” and improve their game. Each day I teach a different principle relating to social dynamics that influence decision making and help men become more persuasive with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with demonstrating high value in social settings.

Extremely beautiful woman don’t want to live average lifestyles. They know they are beautiful and they feel entitled to a privileged life. These woman only want to date men of high value. Your social stock has to be through the roof. Women want to meet a man who is fun, entertaining and interesting and become part of his interesting life. You don’t have to be famous, rich, or extremely good looking. But, you must demonstrate high value. Every move you make, every word you speak and every action you make should show your target that you are a man of VALUE! Always ask yourself the question: How can I improve my perceived value? Then work accordingly.

It’s not only about gaining the approval of your target. You must win over her friends also and show them that you are interesting.

One of the biggest mistakes men make with woman is living an extremely average life. Extremely beautiful woman don’t want to live average lives. In order to maximize success with woman you must find ways to demonstrate value and become more interesting.

Happy Hunting

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Messaging Etiquette

19 Thursday Apr 2012

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Each day I post a blog with helpful hints for men looking to improve their game. I teach social dynamics that help during the attraction and seduction process. The lessons are full of working knowledge that will help you learn “How To Get A Girl.” The topic that I would like to discuss today is “Messaging Etiquette” and how to message a potential date.

When you get a woman’s number it is sometimes hard to tell when and how to contact her. We find ourselves asking questions like: How long do I wait to call her? Should I shoot her a text message? Should I leave a voicemail message? There are unwritten rules that you need to follow and certain etiquette that should be used when messaging.

How long do I wait to call? – There is no set time frame. I suggest waiting at least three days so that you don’t appear desperate. But, if you notice a lot of competition you should call sooner rather than later.

Should I send her a text message? – For a first-time communication I strongly discourage text messages as a form of communication. A telephone call goes a long way and is much more personal.

Should I leave a voicemail message? – Yes, but keep it short and simple.

Happy Hunting

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Branding

12 Thursday Apr 2012

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Approach Strategy., Attraction, Branding, Dating, Getting Girls, How To Get A Girl, Name, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Simplicity, Social Dynamics, Success with Women, The Approach, Venusian Science, Your Name

The purpose of this blog is to teach men “How To Get A Girl.” Each day I try to provide a small piece of advice that will help men become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The material aims to help students during the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with “Simplicity” and the importance of your name in the approach.

Research has proven that people show greater affection for names that can be easily pronounce, rather than names that are difficult to pronounce.

Marketers are fully aware of this phenomenon when branding companies, products or people the easier the name is to read and pronounce the more likely it will be viewed positively.

How does this apply to getting girls? If your name is long or difficult to pronounce I’m not telling you to go out and legally change your name. I’m simply advising you to never underestimate the power of simplicity. This is the reason that you see many pick-up artists using a short alias during introductions. In order to build a positive first impression and avoid stumbling blocks in communication it is effective to use an alias to smooth communication and generate interest in your identity. Your name is part of your brand. It is important to keep it simple.

Happy Hunting

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Mirroring Behavior

04 Wednesday Apr 2012

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The reason that you are reading this blog is to improve your game and learn “How To Get A Girl” to like you. Each day I try to share a small piece of wisdom that could help during the attraction and seduction process. Generally, the advice is intended to help you learn social dynamics with women and help you become more persuasive.

The concept that I would like to teach today has to do with mirroring your targets behavior. Going along the same lines as yesterday’s blog post titled “Accentuate Similarities” which emphasized that similarities make us feel comfortable and we prefer to associate with people who are like us. When we match the behavior of our target we increase our likeability and create feelings of trust. There has been much research performed by social psychologists on the topic of matching behavior. Whether you are in a job interview, in a sales presentation or introducing yourself to a woman at the bar. Mirroring behavior makes social interaction seem smoother and creates a bond between two people.

For example, if you are at a nightclub and you approach a beautiful woman. You notice that she is standing with perfect posture, with her arms crossed and she is chewing gum in a aggressive way. It is in your favor to stand with perfect posture fold your arms and chew your gum with the same intensity. The matched similarities in your body language with create a bond between you and she will feel a natural inclination to associate with you.

Happy Hunting

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Purchasing Behavior

29 Thursday Mar 2012

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When people ask me “How To Get A Girl” I like to discuss social dynamics and behavioral science to explain ways to influence the female decision making process. Today I would like to discuss an interesting phenomenon associated with our purchasing behavior.

Studies have shown that potential buyers associate the quality of an item with the price. When the price of an item is high we’re likely to think that it’s worth more.

I know what you’re thinking. How does consumer purchasing behavior relate to getting girls? This concept validates the idea of value demonstration. Our goal is to demonstrate high value in our social interactions to increase our personal demand. We want women to like us.

What I’m saying is that in order to maximize success with women your need to appear as if you have a “high-price tag.” Shopping at Old Navy and the Gap won’t get you the results you’re looking for. You need to use your wardrobe as an extension or your personality and an expression of value. I’m not saying that you need to drop your life savings on shoes and a watch. But, you should spend some money and invest in your appearance. Women of beauty want to find men who are fashion conscious.

By dressing in high-quality, clean, well-fitting clothes we demonstrate high-value and our perceived-value increases. Women will naturally think that we’re worth more. Plus, you will feel a greater sense of self-respect which will increase your confidence.

Happy Hunting

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No Strings Attached

22 Thursday Mar 2012

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Approach Strategy., Attraction, Behavioral Science, Cold Reading, Compliance, Dating, Getting Girls, How To Get A Girl, Incentive, No Strings Attached, Pick-Up Artist, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Venusian Science

Our goal is to teach men “How To Get A Girl.” So each day we try to teach a different principle that will help you during the attraction and seduction process. For the most part we are all products of an incentive-based society. We are conditioned to engage in opportunities that provide incentive for us. This is simply rational decision making behavior. We go to school and educate ourselves to one day obtain a career that we enjoy. We get out of bed in the morning to go to work to earn a paycheck. We approach women in bars and nightclubs to create friendships that can develop into lasting relationships.

Because we seek incentives before engaging in activities, we need to stop and analyze our approach. Ask ourselves what is the “draw” behind my message.

When soliciting a woman for compliance or cooperation one powerful method of creating “draw” or incentive is offer help in an unconditional “no-strings-attached” way. By offering help you will increase compliance and your personal likeabilty. This approach strategy is easy to implement, you need to use cold reading techniques and identify opportunities to help women. Once you find an appropriate moment you can easily move in and offer your help. This process builds trust and rapport with your target.

Happy Hunting

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Reality Distortion

15 Thursday Mar 2012

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Attraction, Beautiful Women, Dating, gaming, Getting Girls, How To Get A Girl, internal dialogue, Kiss Close, Pick-Up Artist, Psychology, Reality Disruption, Reality Distortion, Seal The Deal, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Proof, The Game, Validation

The reason you’re here is to improve your game and learn How To Get A Girl.  In order to fully understand social dynamics with women you need to put your self inside the mind of a women.  It is important to realize that extremely beautiful women have a slightly distorted view of reality.  They know that they are hot and they want that reality to be validated.  Beautiful women want to be placed on a pedestal and have men compete for their attention.  They consistently demonstrate bratty behavior and have this internal dialogue that says “I’m hot shit, you need my validation for sexual approval and I’m going to make you work your ass off for it.  I’m am hard to get!”

The way to attract and seduce a beautiful woman is to disrupt her reality and make her work to validate her own perceived reality.  What do I mean by this?  If you play hard to get and offer her attention and then quickly pull away, offer attention and quickly pull away.  She will begin to fight for your attention.

Because beautiful women identify themselves as being beautiful the second that reality is questioned they immediately fight to validate their reality.

To test my hypothesis, next time you are about to kiss a girl for the first time.  Pull away and tell her that things are moving too fast.  Then tell her that you aren’t that type of guy that just kisses a girl without knowing them.  They will fight and try to prove that they are different from most girls.  Next thing you know they will be fighting to kiss you.

Happy Hunting

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Group Judgment

08 Thursday Mar 2012

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Men are always asking “How To Get A Girl.”  Every time I post a blog I try to provide a nugget of knowledge that can be helpful in your pursuit of beautiful women.  The concept that I want to emphasize today is the idea of Group Judgment.

People are social by nature.  Extremely beautiful women are generally social butterflies and enjoy being in large social groups where they are showered with attention.  The attention is warm and comforting and causes feelings of acceptance.

Because beautiful women are extremely social.  They are usually found in large groups at bars and night clubs.  It is rare to find a beautiful woman sitting alone at the bar.

This group dynamic influences decisions and judgments.  Consequently, the factors that make you attractive in the eyes of a beautiful woman are influenced by social factors.  In order to get the girl you must win over her friends.

Studies show that when groups are cohesive and relatively insulated from influence of outsiders, group loyalty and pressures to conform can lead to what is called “groupthink.”  This was defined by psychologist Irving Janis and “refers to a deterioration of mental efficiency, reality testing, and moral judgment that results from in-group pressures.”  These pressures can be difficult to overcome when approaching women in groups.

Your strategy should be to approach the group and not the girl.  Focus on gaining the approval of a less attractive girl in the group and work your way up the food chain.   By becoming friends with the less attractive friend and showering her with attention you position yourself to approach your primary target.  In fact, by showering attention on the less attractive girl you will provoke feelings of jealously in your primary target.

Never underestimate the power that group judgment plays on individual decision making.

Happy Hunting

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Influence

03 Saturday Mar 2012

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Attraction, Authority, Dating, Getting Girls, How To Get A Girl, Influence, Liking, Pick-Up Artist, Psychology, PUA, Scarcity, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Proof

One of my favorite books that I refer to frequently is called Influence: by Robert B. Cialdini.  Robert is a Professor of Psychology at Arizona State University.  His teachings on Influence and Persuasion are highly regarded.  Many of his teachings can be applied to your PUA training.  There are certain principals of Influence that will show you How To Get A Girl.

There are four principals that influence decision making and apply directly to the attraction and seduction process.  I will touch briefly on each principle of influence as taught by Robert B. Cialdini in his book Influence and explain how these principles can be applied to improve your game.  By having a firm understanding of the principles that influence our decision making behavior you can learn How To Get  A Girl.  I will now refer to these principals of influence as weapons of influence.

Weapons of Influence:

  1. Social Proof
  2. Liking
  3. Authority
  4. Scarcity

Social Proof – This principle states that we determine what is correct by finding out what other people think is correct.  The principle applies especially to the way we decide what constitutes correct behavior.  This psychology is important to understand for a PUA.  Usually, when a lot of people are doing something, it is the right thing to do.  Generally we make few mistakes by acting in accord with social evidence than by acting contrary.  The greater the number of people who find an idea correct, the more a given individual will perceive the idea to be correct.  How does this apply to getting girls?

Imagine the two example below:

1.) You pick up your date and head to a local Mexican restaurant for dinner.  You have interesting conversation over a good meal.  After dinner the date transitions to a martini bar where you meet a group of friends for drinks.  The date progresses at a nice pace and you enjoy cocktails and conversation.  As the evening winds down you take your date home and tell her that you should hang out again.  You kiss her good night and go home.  (Sounds like a pretty average first date.)

2.) You ask your date to meet you for cocktails before dinner at your favorite restaurant.  You have the cocktail portion of the date staged.  You have table with three hot girlfriends or models (Hired Help).  You are talking drinking having a good time.  Your date arrives and finds you surrounded by beautiful women.  As your date arrives you  wave her over and make introductions to each person at the table and then excuse yourselves and leave on your dinner date.

By meeting your date in the staged cocktail setting you demonstrate social proof that you have beautiful girlfriends.  The social proof communicates in a non-verbal way that you are a man of high value.

Liking – This principle states that people prefer to say yes to individuals they know and like.  What are factors that increase our overall attractiveness and likeability?  I  have aggregated a list of some determining factors that Cialdini has mentioned below:

  1. Physical Attractiveness – This is a response that social scientists call the Halo Effect.  A halo effect occurs when one positive characteristic of a person dominates the way that that person is viewed by others.
  2. Similarity – We like people that are similar to us.  Whether the similarity is in the area of opinions, personality traits, back ground, or lifestyle.  We are more likely to say yes and be in compliance with someone we are similar to.
  3. Compliments – We are more likely to “like” and comply with someone who gives us praise.  We tend to like people who say that they like us.
  4. Familiarity- We tend to like people that we share in our positivity and have frequent and repeated social contact.

During the courtship process you are constantly attempting to seek the approval of your target.  Finding ways to identify commonalities and similar interests will help you to gain the approval of your target.  Giving genuine compliments without telegraphing interest will also help your to gain her approval.

Authority – We are conditioned from childhood to accept the influence of authority figures and we are often vulnerable to the symbols of authority.  Compliance professionals  understand that when draped with titles, clothes and images of authority they are in control.  When we react to authority in an automatic fashion , there is a tendency to do so in response to the mere symbols of authority.

During the attraction and seduction process when seeking compliance of a woman.  It helps to demonstrate symbols of authority that show that you have power.  By doing so you show your target in a non-verbal way that you are a man of high value.

Scarcity – We assign more value to opportunities when they are less available.  People want what they can’t have.

Stimulating jealousy or the idea of loss is a powerful tool to leverage during the attraction and seduction process.

I hope that these principals are helpful as you learn How To Get A Girl.

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