Building A Relationship of Trust

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Attraction, Behavioral Science, Building A Relationship of Trust, Dating, Getting Girls, How Do You Get Girls, How To Get A Girl, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Rapport, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Trust, Venusian Science

The goal of this blog is to teach men How To Get Girls. The material teaches social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process and help men to become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with building trust and rapport with your target.

What makes pick-up so difficult is that you are dealing with complete strangers. It is very easy for a beautiful woman to feel threatened by a complete stranger and react in negative manner to your approach strategy. Strangers are often seen as the “opposition” or the “other side” and are treated much differently than someone who they already know. It is much easier dealing with a classmate, co-worker, friend or even a friend of a friend.

A pick-up artist has the ability to avoid being a stranger, quickly building trust and rapport with his target.

The more quickly you can turn a stranger into someone that you know the better.

A relationship of trust is what causes a woman to write down her telephone number, hang-out with you and your friends, hold hands, kiss, enter your living space, and ultimately enter your bedroom.

Try hard to get to know your target. Ask questions and listen. Find out about their likes and dislikes. Share intimate and personal information / interesting facts about yourself that will allow your target to know more about you.

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Asking Questions

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Approach, Asking Questions, Attraction, Behavioral Science, Getting Girls, How To Get The Girl, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, Seduction, Silence, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

I write this blog with the intention of helping men to improve their game and learn How To Get The Girl of their dreams. I teach social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. I try to teach men to be more persuasive with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with asking questions during your approach.

When approaching women and engaging in conversation you need to use two key tools:

Tools:

1.) Use questions instead of statements
2.) Silence

The first tool is asking questions. Questions generate answers and statements generate resistance. Question will allow your target to express themselves and you can provide them with recognition for their unique insight or wisdom.

“Questions do not criticize, they educate.” -Roger Fisher

If you ask your target an honest question and you get an insufficient answer. Use the second tool. Silence…

Silence is a great tool to use if a target is acting unreasonably or attacking you in an unjustified way. Often the best thing that you can do is sit there and not say a word. Simply sit silently and provide uncomfortable silence. She will know that she has cross a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

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Disqualify

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Approach, Approach Strategy., Attraction, Behavioral Science, Dating, Disqualification, Disqualify, Getting Girls, How Do You Get Girls, How To Get Girls, Influence, Loss Aversion, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

During our training seminars men frequently ask the question “How Do You Get Girls?” I write this blog to help men improve their game and learn social dynamics that effect the attraction and seduction process. The goal is to help men become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to discuss with you today is called disqualification.

Disqualify – verb: any statement that shows a woman that you are not hitting on her, when in fact you are attracted to her.

The concept seems counter-intuitive but it is a very important building block in the attraction process.

Disqualifying is the corner stone of flirting. You show the woman that you are attracted to that you are not interested in her.

It seems counter-intuitive, but it works.

It has something to do with “loss aversion.” We naturally want what we can’t have. When we feel the loss of someone we naturally have a heightened desire for that person. We have a tendency to be more sensitive to potential losses than to potential gains. You want the conversation to shift from her thinking “this guy is hitting on me” to “This guy is non-threatening.”

Our goal when approaching women is to enter into a natural conversation and create a sense of comfort without telegraphing interest. The way we avoid telegraphing interest is through the process disqualifying. In order to build attraction you must first show her that you are not interested in her. If you approach a woman using a more aggressive strategy you appear desperate and women sense the desperation and find it unattractive.

Truly beautiful women have hundreds of men competing for their attention. When you properly disqualify your target you present a unique challenge that women find intriguing. They think “I can’t have this guy. How can I get him?” and they want what they can’t have.

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Personalize Communication

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Attraction, Attraction Switches, Behavioral Science, Communication, Dating, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Influence, Personalized Communication, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

When students ask the question “How Can I Get Girls?” I always try to teach a lesson about social dynamics and provide some advice that will help during the attraction and seduction process. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with the appropriate use of technology in your communication with women.

In recent years we have been bombarded with technological advancements that have effected the way we communicate with women. With social media, email, text messaging and Skype we find ourselves using technology in many different ways to find dates. For better or worse, long are the days when these negotiations only took place in person and over the phone.

Technology is great and it has changed our lives for for the best, but face-to-face communication is what strengthens relationships and builds trust. Email and Text messaging is great. But, I am simply arguing that “Personalized Communication” like telephone conversation and good old fashion face-to-face communication is more effective for creating rapport.

I’m not saying that social media, email and text messaging are not effective tools for attracting and seducing women. I am simply stating that in order to maximize success with women you will need to master “Personalized Communication” techniques. One of the key attraction switches for women is when a man demonstrates that he is socially competent. This is accomplished through face-to-face social interactions.

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Intoxication

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Attraction, Behavioral Science, Casual Sex, Dating, Influence, Intoxication, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Sex, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Venusian Science

Students frequently ask the question “How Do You Get Girls?” I write this blog to help men improve their game and become more persuasive. My goal is to help my students learn about the attraction / seduction process and become more successful with women. The topic I would like to discuss today has to do with intoxication and detrimental impact of alcohol on decision-making.

Many studies have been conducted in an attempt to measure the deceptive influence that occurs when a person has a high level of alcohol in their blood stream. The studies show that we are more susceptible to deceptive influence and persuasion when we are drunk. When we are intoxicated we are more gullible and lack cognitive resources to make rational decisions.

What does this have to do with getting girls? In a normal cognitive state, beautiful women are less likely to participate in casual sex than men. There are high-stakes for women, they don’t want to risk pregnancy and the troubles that result from having a baby.

When we are intoxicated rational decision-making behavior is impaired and we are vulnerable to deceptive persuasion tactics.

Studies have revealed that it’s during these moments of intoxication that women are mostly likely to participate in casual sex.

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The Power of Because

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Attraction, Because, Behavioral Science, Dating, Gaining Compliance, Getting Girls, How Do You Get A Girl, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Providing Reason, Psychology, PUA, Rationale, Relationships, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, The Game, Venusian Science

Men visit my blog to improve their game and answer the question “How Do You Get A Girl?” The purpose of this material is to help teach men about social dynamics that effect social interactions with women and provide helpful advice during the attraction and seduction process. The concept that I will cover today will strengthen your persuasion attempts and help you increase compliance with women.

Behavioral scientists have found that by incorporating the word “because” into your requests you can increase the compliance of your target. If you accompany your request with strong rationale, by stating the importance of the request and providing the reason behind your request you will see increased compliance. This may sound obvious, but we often assume that people understand the reasoning behind our requests.

How does this apply to getting girls? When seeking compliance rather than making demands “Come to our party Friday night,” or “Give me your number and I will call you sometime,” a more effective strategy is to provide reason and strong rationale.

“Come to our party this Friday night, because if you don’t you will be missing out.”

Or

“Can I get your number? Because, we’re having a party this weekend and I want to send you directions.”

In other words, if you use the word because when making requests you will maximize your success and increase compliance with women.

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Attraction Switches

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Alpha Male, Attraction, Attraction Switches, Attractiveness, Behavioral Science, Confident, Dating, Decision Making, Discreet, Funny, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Intelligence, Judgment, Leader of Men, Many Girlfriends, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Short-Cut Logic, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Socially Competent, Standards, Success with Women, Venusian Science

Men frequently ask us “How Can I Get Girls” so I each day I try to leave my students with a small pearl of wisdom that will help during the attraction and seduction process. Today I would like to go over female “Attraction Switches.”

The unconscious mind is constantly performing complex computations to make day-to-day decisions.  To speed up the decision making process our brain uses logical short-cuts to facilitate the operations to make better decisions quickly.  Our brain is programmed to seek evidence of social proof to make quality decisions.

Example of short-cut logic:

A beautiful woman walks in the room.  You recognize a giant diamond ring on the ring finger of her left hand.  You make the logical connection that this beautiful women is taken.  She is married.  You don’t have to ask her the question, your brain performed a logical short-cut to arrive at that conclusion.

Along with short-cut logic the female mind is programmed with a variety of  attraction switches that influence how you are perceived in the mind of a woman.  These switches allow women to make snap decisions / judgement to determine how attractive you are.

List of Attraction Switches in women:

“Alpha male”
“The ability to look after her and her children, financially and otherwise”
“Socially competant”
“Many friends”
“pre-approved by other females”
“intelligent”
“Confident”
“Funny”
“Leader of men”
“Has standards when comes to women”
“Many girlfriends”
“Discreet”

By understanding short-cut logic and attraction switches.  You can learn to flip those switches and maximize success with women.

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Scarcity

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Attraction, Behavioral Science, Dating, Decision Making, Emotions, Getting Girls, How Do You Get Girls, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Scarcity, Seduction, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

Each day I make an attempt to help men answer the question “How Do You Get Girls?” Each post contains a lesson in social dynamics and persuasion that can be helpful during the attraction and seduction process.  The concept that I would like to touch on today is called the “Scarcity” principle.  We are all effected by the power of scarcity in the decision making process.  If we sense that a product is available only for a limited time, we are naturally drawn in and we show a greater desire for that product.  Scarcity plays a major roll in the demand of all products.

By understanding the scarcity principle we can leverage powerful emotions that trigger people to action.  How can these lessons be applied to getting girls?  In order to maximize success with women.   You must create an image for yourself that communicates to your target that you have a limited time offer with a set expiration date.  This will naturally increase your personal demand.  Have you heard the old adage “We want what we can’t have.” We have all experienced the psychological effects of the scarcity principle.  Leveraging these powerful emotions is one way to become more persuasive.

I like to draw the comparison to an ice cream truck that drives through the neighborhood on a summer afternoon.  Children hear the music playing and scramble to find their parents or someone who can purchase the ice cream.  The children know that they have a limited time constraint before the truck drives away.  This time constraint provides the ice cream an element of scarcity that drives children to demand the product.  It is not just because kids like ice cream, they are also influenced by the element of scarcity.

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Authentic Smile

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Attraction, Authentic Smile, Behavioral Science, Body Language, Dating, Getting Girls, How To Get The Girl, Influence, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Smile, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

My goal is to teach men “How To Get The Girl” of their dreams. Each day I focus on factors that influence the attraction and seduction process. I try to provide advice that will help you improve your game and maximize success with women. Usually the advice is focused on social dynamics, persuasion and influence. Today I would like to emphasize the importance of an authentic smile. A smile is possibly the most critical pieces of the puzzle. A smile is often more important then words. Your smile has a positive effect on all who see it.

Social scientists have found that your smile influences all types of social interactions. People even have the ability to distinguish between authentic and inauthentic smiles even thought the differences are very subtle. If you fake a smile women have the ability to see right through and they will respond in a negative manner. You may have heard the old adage, “Smile and world smiles with you.” In order to maximize success with women it is important to approach women using a truly authentic smile. Nothing is more attractive to a woman then happiness.

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Mirroring Behavior

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Attraction, Behavioral Science, Body Language, Comfort, Dating, female body language, Getting Girls, How To Get A Girl, Matching Behavior, Mirroring Behavior, Persuasion, Pick-Up Artist, Pick-Up Science, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Similarities, Social Dynamics, Social Science, Success with Women, Venusian Science

The reason that you are reading this blog is to improve your game and learn “How To Get A Girl” to like you. Each day I try to share a small piece of wisdom that could help during the attraction and seduction process. Generally, the advice is intended to help you learn social dynamics with women and help you become more persuasive.

The concept that I would like to teach today has to do with mirroring your targets behavior. Going along the same lines as yesterday’s blog post titled “Accentuate Similarities” which emphasized that similarities make us feel comfortable and we prefer to associate with people who are like us. When we match the behavior of our target we increase our likeability and create feelings of trust. There has been much research performed by social psychologists on the topic of matching behavior. Whether you are in a job interview, in a sales presentation or introducing yourself to a woman at the bar. Mirroring behavior makes social interaction seem smoother and creates a bond between two people.

For example, if you are at a nightclub and you approach a beautiful woman. You notice that she is standing with perfect posture, with her arms crossed and she is chewing gum in a aggressive way. It is in your favor to stand with perfect posture fold your arms and chew your gum with the same intensity. The matched similarities in your body language with create a bond between you and she will feel a natural inclination to associate with you.

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