Probability and Risk

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Approach Anxiety, Attraction, Dating, Ho To Get The Girl, Pick-Up Artists, Probability and Risk, Psychology, PUA, Relationships, Seduction, Social Anxiety, Social Dynamics

When men ask me “How To Get The Girl” of their dreams.  I always try to touch on the concept of probability and risk.  Probability and risk are everywhere: When we cross the street, in the food we eat, in tonight’s basketball game.  Yet risk is very difficult to quantify and is most often multi-factorial.  Even the most basic problems in probability are very difficult to quantify.

The reason that risk is hard to quantify is because we all have a different perception of risk.  Smoking causes more than one out of six deaths in the United States.  On average, a male smoker reduces his life expectancy by 8.6 years.  Some people have a higher tolerance of risk and thus smoke cigarettes.

Applying probability and risk to the attraction and seduction process is important in overcoming social anxiety that can haunt your mind.

Your probability of success with women increases as you implement successful pick-up strategy and the risk of social humiliation diminishes.

When you are overcome with social anxiety and afraid of speaking to women.  You must stop, regroup emotionally, and perform a risk vs. reward analysis in you mind.  Identifying exactly what you stand to gain from the social interaction.  You will find that the perceived risk is usually much smaller than it appears in your mind.  Risk is often hard to quantify and our emotions tend to amplify our feelings to almost a state of panic.

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Group Judgment

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Attraction, Dating, Group Judgment, groupthink, How To Get A Girl, Influence, Pick-Up Artists, Psychology, PUA, Seduction, Social Dynamics, Social Influence, The Approach

Men are always asking “How To Get A Girl.”  Every time I post a blog I try to provide a nugget of knowledge that can be helpful in your pursuit of beautiful women.  The concept that I want to emphasize today is the idea of Group Judgment.

People are social by nature.  Extremely beautiful women are generally social butterflies and enjoy being in large social groups where they are showered with attention.  The attention is warm and comforting and causes feelings of acceptance.

Because beautiful women are extremely social.  They are usually found in large groups at bars and night clubs.  It is rare to find a beautiful woman sitting alone at the bar.

This group dynamic influences decisions and judgments.  Consequently, the factors that make you attractive in the eyes of a beautiful woman are influenced by social factors.  In order to get the girl you must win over her friends.

Studies show that when groups are cohesive and relatively insulated from influence of outsiders, group loyalty and pressures to conform can lead to what is called “groupthink.”  This was defined by psychologist Irving Janis and “refers to a deterioration of mental efficiency, reality testing, and moral judgment that results from in-group pressures.”  These pressures can be difficult to overcome when approaching women in groups.

Your strategy should be to approach the group and not the girl.  Focus on gaining the approval of a less attractive girl in the group and work your way up the food chain.   By becoming friends with the less attractive friend and showering her with attention you position yourself to approach your primary target.  In fact, by showering attention on the less attractive girl you will provoke feelings of jealously in your primary target.

Never underestimate the power that group judgment plays on individual decision making.

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Negative Behavior

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Attraction, Causing Drama, Dating, Getting Girls, How Can I Get Girls, Negative Behavior, Over Hype, Overly Nice, Pick-Up Artists, Psychology, PUA, Seduction, Seeking Approval, Seriousness, Social Dynamics, Telegraphing Interest, The Approach

When people ask the question How Can I Get Girls?  I immediately direct them to a list of negative behaviors that should be avoided during the approach.

Negative Behavior:

 Telegraphing Interest – It may seem impossible to approach a beautiful woman and strike up conversation without telegraphing interest.  But, your goal is to appear as very social person who doesn’t care who you talk to at any given moment.  For all that beautiful woman knows, you just finished speaking with 5 beautiful women.  You speak with anyone and everyone.  You’re always a very social person.  When you quickly telegraph interest with beautiful women you instantly disqualify yourself, because women are hard-wired with defense mechanisms that protect themselves from creepy guys.

Overly Nice – Have you ever heard the term “Nice guys finish last?” It is true.  The reason that nice guys finish last with women is because they telegraph interest too quickly.  When you are overly nice women of beauty automatically put you in the friend zone.  Overly nice guys seem like they are trying way too hard to create attraction.  Attraction should come natural and women notice that.  They want to be able to work for your approval.  You can and should be nice after you first meet.  Nice = buying drinks, opening doors, holding coats, etc.  But, in the beginning it is important to be funny, adventurous and mysterious to leave her curious about you.  Don’t be overly nice. 

Seeking Approval – You shouldn’t seem like you are seeking their approval.  Women of beauty talk to many men who “try” to impress them in order to seek their approval.  It may seem like a good strategy, but by bragging or kissing ass you ultimately appear as an insecure chump that lacks confidence.  Remember the kid in school who was nice, but always trying to fit-in?  Don’t be that kid.  Stop caring about what people think about you and be yourself.  By being different then everyone you will be able to attract the attention of other.

Causing Drama – Women hate men who cause drama.  Women have female friends that create drama in their lives.  They don’t want additional problems in their lives.   Don’t try to make waves in order to draw attention to yourself.  This is always counterproductive.  Men of high value avoid drama.

Over Hype the Situation – Never build up an approach to be a monumental in your mind.  Why let your emotions build up over something that lasts only a short time?  If for some reason the woman doesn’t want to talk you can move on to the next set.  Whatever happens to you during the approach, you will eventually overcome.

Become to Serious – Men have a tendency to take themselves too seriously.  You need to be able to laugh at your self and realize that this is a process.  Fighting for the attention of women is challenging at times.  Women of beauty usually have men around them.  Smile and be different from the crowd.

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The Game

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Attraction, How Do You Get Girls, Neil Strauss, Pick-Up Artists, PUA, Seduction, Style, The Game

Men ask me all the time “How do you get girls?”

I generally always direct newbies in the direction of classic books.

The book The Game: By Neil Strauss changed my life and opened my eyes to the world of the pick-up artist (PUA).  I had learned to approach women and create conversation long before reading the book.  But, the lessons that are taught in The Game are priceless and universal.  I strongly encourage my students to purchase and read the book.